Lessons Learned

     It’s been a little over a year since I graduated college and entered the workforce. I’ve learned a few things and made a lot of mistakes. Here are the top 10 things I wish I could go back and tell myself.
*These aren’t in any particular order. They’re just lessons I’ve had to learn the hard way.


  1. Your student loans aren’t disappearing overnight. Checking Nelnet every night to calculate and recalculate and estimate how much you should spend to magically make them disappear isn’t healthy. They aren’t going anywhere. You got got. Obsessing over your student loans only will increase your stress and that’s not something you need.
  2. You should like what you do. It may not always be easy. But you should like what you do.
  3. Learn the word no.
  4. “They” aren’t worth it. Your friends who you feel you have to call every week that never make the effort to call you aren’t worth it. The guy you’re stressing over, LOL girl get a grip. You do have a few real ones in your circle. Unfortunately, you’re so busy obsessing over why the fake ones won’t love you to appreciate them. If “they” cause you stress, they have to go.
  5. Going back to D.C. every chance you get because you haven’t made friends in your area is detrimental to your health, mind, body, soul, spirit, and bank account. Let. It. Go. Yes, your good friends are all there, but I’m sure if you made a serious effort to make new friends you could have good friends in New Jersey too.
  6. God is a good God. He raises you up in your highs and loves all over you in your lows. He wants you to succeed but you have to lean on him.
  7. It’s okay to constantly obsess over makeup. It’s clearly something you’re passionate about. So, why not devote your time to growing in your craft?
  8. If you surround yourself with people who don’t care, eventually you won’t care and you are better than that. Excel.
  9. You are what you eat. You can’t eat french fries every chance you get. Salads are good and carrots are great.
  10. Life’s hard. Not just college. Not just living in D.C. with practically no money. Life is hard. But you have to go THROUGH the valley of the shadow of death. Not around. Not beside. THROUGH. It’s hard, but it’s only going to make you better and prepare you for your blessing.
     Do you wish you could give your past self some advice? Leave it in the comments section below!


  • Megan

    Thank you. I kinda needed this this morning. 🙂 My advice for my past self would be: Don’t be such a workaholic. You’ve still like 40 years of this. Pace yourself. You can have fun too.

  • Your friend in Jersey :)

    Remember when we started out all ideal and expected to eat lunch outside everyday lol Come back and visit soon!

  • The Realest

    I personally wouldn’t give my past self any advice because it would be a waste of time. So instead, I’ll give your past self more advice.

    11. Send your friends candy. You know they want candy. (Peanut Butter M&Ms)
    12. Spend alone time in public places. Being cooped up with Netflix doesn’t have to be the only thing you do when you’re bored.
    13. Send your friends money. You know they want money. (Big bills)
    14. Explore free. Seriously. Pick up the local (free) newspaper and see what free events are being held and go to them. Or google and visit hidden treasures are around you.
    15. Send your friends dating suggestions. You know they want dating suggestions. (Tall, Smart, Good Kisser)
    16. Make a 1 year, 5 year, and 10 year plan for your personal and professional life. “The future belongs to those who prepare for it today.”
    17. Send your friends new music. You know they want new music. (Alternative HipHop/R&B)
    18. Be active in the community. Invest in the space that is your new home, regardless of its brevity, by volunteering, etc.
    19. Send your friends your blogs. You know they want your blogs. (Not all of them, but the special ones)
    20. Work somewhere you love. It’s hard to figure out where that may be, but do what it takes to find your perfect job.