Growing through your failures to propel you forward.

The Midnight Hour: Grow Through It

Growing through your failures to propel you forward.

I’m in a different place than when I started my “Midnight Hour” series. This, in itself, is a pure blessing. When I started this series I had just lost a job (a first for me), I was spending my favorite holiday apart from my family (a first for me), and everything seemed to be going to hell. My face was broke out, my hair fell out, I questioned everything and I became deeply discouraged. However, God found a way to bring me through. I could go on and on about how he did that, the people he used to do it, and the lessons that were revealed to me. However, the most important lesson that I learned is that when it rains, that means you have seeds in the ground that need to grow. Growing through your pain, heartache, and disappointments will only propel you forward. In fact, this growth will take you further than you’ve ever been before.

Faith without works is dead. So why is it that when you’re putting in so much work towards something is when things start to fall apart? Rain. You need rain to grow. Bad seasons will come around, more than once in fact. Fortunately, they propel you forward if you grow during them. When life is not how you pictured, take a look at what you’re going through and figure out what you need to learn from this rainy season. You may need to learn discipline. You may have been heading down the wrong path. You may have needed to learn how to use what you have before you could be trusted with more. (FYI, this season taught me all three of these things.) Each season has a specific lesson that we have to learn before we can move on.

Growing through your season is hard and frustrating. It can be debilitating, humbling, humiliating, stressful, unkind, and nasty. It can make you crumble as you watch everything fall apart before your eyes. I’m not going to lie to you. It sucks. But if you grow through what you’re going through you’ll learn a lesson that you will undoubtedly need in the future. If you don’t learn from your difficult season, you’ll be stuck in the same holding pattern until you do.

Will Smith, who has recently become one of my favorite Instagram accounts, spoke on the notion of failing early, failing often, and failing forward. I saw the video at a particularly low moment in this season of low moments. Then, as I wiped my tears I realized he was right. You have to grow through what you’re going through. Growth and failure are 100% vital to the future success of everything that I dream to do.

Unfortunately, there is no magic pill to help you through everything you need to grow through. All I have is a scripture and a quote.

Romans 5:3-5

More than that, we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us.


It’s okay if you fall down and lose your spark. Just make sure that when you get back up, you rise as the whole damn fire. – Colette Werden

If you’re going through a rainy season, take a moment to understand why you’re going through it. Then, grow through it.


You got this!